Picture the scene. The dog’s taking me for my daily walk (a retirement essential). Yesterday’s rain has swelled the brook as it flows gracefully between the trees. Dewdrops on thatched roofs glisten in the winter sun. Birds sing and the local chickens walk the lanes as if they owned the place.
This idyllic scene is broken by a telephone ringing. A hand dives in to my jacket pocket. But it’s not mine – the phone, that is (the hand was). An instinctive action. My mobile doesn’t even ring. Fooled by a landline.
I’d rank myself 7.5 out of 10 on the technological obsession scale (especially laptop and aforementioned phone). When it comes to social media, it’s the strangely-addictive Twitter and the slightly clunky, but nevertheless, useful LinkedIn which keep me posted (do follow me, he says obsessively…).
I do so enjoy the benefits and access to easier communication and information that technology brings. Life is for learning and one can learn so much from all that’s out there as well as communicate so easily with such a vast range of people.
And yet we live in a society which communicates so much but communicates so little too. In cafés and restaurants, people sat together are also sitting apart, conversing with their smartphone. Work colleagues e-mail each other in the same building (mea culpa). Messaging avoids the hassle of the face to face (ditto). Facebook friends number in the hundreds but ‘offline friends’ are few.
Technology has been key in developing the 24/7 work, rest and play culture in which we live and has brought both advantages and disadvantages.
And therein lies the rub. For many people, there’s no downtime. No way to switch off. Texts and e-mails come and go day and night. Mobile is the go-to number. The pressure is to be always on. Always on for what? Good customer service or fear of the boss? A need to feel needed? A want to feel wanted? A belief that there is no choice?
Many have become so dependent on the phone, tablet or whatever, that its absence causes them feelings of tension and insecurity. (Sounds familiar?)
So how do we manage these various aspects of modern living in order to flourish as people beloved by God?
Balance and boundaries.
In the previous post, we considered how living well is not so much about work-life balance but whole life balance. When it comes to technology, there’s another word beginning with b: boundaries.
So here are a few more tools for your toolbox to help reset things (some are from others, some are mine):
- Don’t have work emails going to your personal smartphone (no-brainer that one…).
- Working at home? Set time boundaries. Make a separate office space or if that’s not possible pack it all away when you’re finished.
- When it beeps or vibrates, you don’t have to respond immediately. Put it in a different room if it’s a nuisance.
- Day off means day off.
- When at home be at home. The people you live or socialise with want you to be with them not someone else.
- Going out with others for meal? First one to look at their phone pays the bill!
- Think about where you have those calls. Do you really want other people invading your privacy?
- Have a social media-free day each week – or even a technology-free one.
- Switch off (yes, switch it off…) 30 mins before bedtime. Switch on no sooner than 15 mins after getting up. The bedroom is no place for a mobile – if you need an alarm, buy a clock.
- Pray for wisdom about how best to use the gift of technology.
“But, what about…”
“I want to…”
Yes, of course. But you do have a choice also.
You’re far too special to be fooled by a phone.